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5 Ways to Renew Your Mindset in 2020

By now, you should all be pretty aware that we are entering a new...gasp...DECADE!

Cue the countless posts of not only the New Year resolutions, but the New Decade resolutions.

Now, I know I sound like I'm rolling my eyes at the people posting all over social media how greatly their lives are going to change just because a new decade will be upon us tomorrow, but I would be lying if I said I wasn't that person, too.

I've been excited for 2020.

2019 was not my friend.

Neither was 2018, or quite frankly, 2017.

But then God reminded me, softly, that just because a new year is gracing us does not mean it automatically comes with a blank slate.

The truth is, a new year doesn't give us a new start.

A new faith does.

A new mindset does.

A new, fresh perspective on following Jesus does.

And the only way to access these is by making the choice to do so.

They don't come as a package deal with 2020, but they do come when you make the decision to subscribe to them, renewing your package daily.

Spoiler alert: it will take some work on your part (I know, I know...I'm sorry...), but so will deciding to use that new gym membership at least four times a week, or creating a monthly budget and sticking to it, or not biting your fingernails.

Resolutions don't just happen. They require work.

Here are 5 new mindsets I challenge you to take this new year, and see how God will truly renew you and your life:

1. Focus on God's will, not people's.

I remember the day I decided I didn't want to pursue my television career anymore. I felt God tugging my heart further and further away, and knew it was time to give it up. People thought I was crazy, and honestly, they still do. But, I'm not here to listen to their opinions and follow the path they think I should take. I'm here to serve God's will for my life. And so are you. Someone will always have something to say. Someone will always disagree. In the end, their approval doesn't matter, God's does. Remember who you are serving.

"Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ."

- Galatians 1:10

2. Focus on others more than yourself.

It's easy to make everything about yourself. Believe me, whether we admit it or not, we can all be self-centered at times. The best way to stifle your pity-party and to take your mind off of everything that you wish could be different in your life, is to humbly shift your perspectives to others. The most fulfilling joy comes from helping someone else in need, and showing others the love of Christ by illustrating humility. Simply taking thirty seconds to give someone a sincere compliment can make their entire day, and will fill your heart as well.

" You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”"

- Galatians 5:13-14

3. Stop trying to be "good enough" for God.

This is one that I struggle with the most. Sometimes, I picture God up in Heaven with a Holy checklist of everything I need to accomplish before He is pleased. This list is full of tasks such as, reading my bible for more than 30 minutes, writing a new blog post every morning, getting on my knees and praying for a good hour, and not watching tv unless it is a Christian-based program. But, the reality is, God doesn't keep tabs on us. Sure, it pleases Him when we devote our time to Him, but really He searches our hearts. He already loves us more than we could imagine without us having to prove that we want Him first in our lives. He already accepts you and me without condition. It's hard to comprehend, but it's the truth. Do what you can, but remember that God is not mad at you. He already sent Jesus so that we may live under a grace covenant. This was a free gift. You don't earn gifts, you receive them. So take a breath, and just focus on keeping your heart in the right place.

"For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast."

- Ephesians 2:8-9

4. Remember that the only person you can control is you.

Ok, this is another one at the top of my list. If people don't react or act the way I would in certain situations, I get mad. Like, physically mad. So, I try to remember that God created everyone differently and I just have to accept that people are different than me. But, quite honestly, I have a real hard time accepting that. This, God revealed to me this year, is a pride issue. Basically, I believe that everyone should be like me because my ways are the best. Well, Danielle, news flash my dear - you clearly do not have the best ways because you've gotten yourself in some pretty regretful messes over the years.

I cannot control other people, but I can control myself. I can control how I grow and how I react. I can choose how I act in situations, and how I talk about other people. I get to choose forgiveness, joy, and peace for myself. So, instead of spending wasteful time trying to change other people, I will use that time instead to work on myself, and my attitude. I actually started this a couple weeks ago, and I've noticed how much more peace I have overall.

"Be careful, then, how you live - not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is."

- Ephesians 5:15-17

5. Remember who the battle is really against...

To piggyback off of my last point, half of the time, people who get on your nerves are sent as a test to us. They may not even realize that they are a plot from the enemy to steer you off course. They are probably unaware that they are hurting you or rejecting you simply because they cannot stand the light you emit from having the Holy Spirit in you.

When you can separate these people from their human selves, and realize that you are most likely dealing with a spiritual pawn, you can remember how to fight. Spiritual battle is not physical. It is mental, and it is emotional. This is why it is so important to stay in the Word, and remember God's promises. When the devil speaks lies to you, whether through other people, or in your own mind, you can come back with scripture, and remind him who the true victor is.

What if we took our mind off of getting back at people, and made the choice to get back at the real enemy: the devil? Pray that your spiritual eyes would remain open, and pray this every day.

"Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."

- Ephesians 6:11-13

Although this world seems dark and evil, I am not afraid of everything happening around us in this country. I won't shy away from following my calling because people probably won't agree with my stances or my outlook. This decade, let's decide to rise up and shift our perspective. Let's create love, and positivity in a world of darkness. It's what we were called to do.

But, it's a choice.

Let's choose joy.

Let's choose hope.

Let's choose love.

Here's to a new decade, and a new start.

I'm excited to see what God is going to do.


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