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Stop Feeding Your Feelings

When you were younger, it seemed as though everyone around you had the same advice for any and all situations:

"Follow your heart!"

Okay, y'all, let me tell ya something. This advice has almost always led to absolute destruction. Sure, there have been times where I felt in my heart that I needed to do something or go somewhere, and it has been a positive, life-changing experience for me, but I realize now something I didn't back then.

That wasn't really my heart guiding me, it was the Holy Spirit.

"My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever." - Psalm 73:26

Our hearts are actually incredibly deceiving. They yearn and lust for the desires of our flesh. They are directly connected to what our eyes see, and they begin to drool at the sight of seemingly shiny objects. They begin to beat furiously against our chests, indicating that they surely need whatever it is you're looking at, or thinking about. Without it, they will surely stop beating...

Thus, the birth of feelings.

Ya know, I may not be an expert on much, but I can say that I'm pretty well equipped in this area. We all have feelings, I just happen to have a lot of them. If you don't believe me, just witness me watch "A Walk to Remember", or hold a baby, or view engagement videos. Just believe me on this one.

Feelings are the butterflies in our stomach that can be exciting for a time, but can also bring the biggest emotional destructions into our lives.

Now, I'm not dissing feelings. Feelings are good. Emotions are important, and exciting.

But, when they are not carefully dealt with, they can lead to aching disappointments.

Instead of following our initial feelings, we should pray that they are authentic, and in line with what God wants for us.

How many times did I "follow my heart" and it led me to the wrong crowd, or a guy who had terrible intentions, or a night of bad decisions, or a job that wasn't meant for me?

How many times did my heart lead me to something that it thought would make it whole, only to have that same exact enticing object send it into a state of mangled destruction?

Proverbs 23:19 tells us to set our heart on the right path, not let our hearts set our path.

Most of our feelings come from the desires of our heart. But, sometimes we have trouble depicting what those true desires are. The Word does say that the Lord will gives us the desires of our hearts, but it also says that we need to guard our hearts.

One of the biggest desires of my hearts is to marry and have children. I've been a hopeless romantic since I can remember, and I know that God put that desire in my heart. However, my feelings have deceived me to believe that I could find this knight in shining armor on my own. So, I started putting time and effort into guys that did not align with who God wanted to complete this desire. Instead of feeling loved and full, I was left feeling unworthy, unwanted, and disappointed.

These feelings set my heart back, feeding roots of bitterness and resentment towards love. I struggled with self-worth, and thoughts that I'll never find that authentic love that God instilled in my heart so long ago. Had I not dabbled in my deceiving feelings, I could have guarded my heart from these disappointments.

"And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:7

God doesn't want us to not feel. He doesn't want us to never have joy and excitement, but He does want us to be smart. He is trying to protect us from heartbreak, and from going down destructive paths.

Pray about your feelings. Pray that God will guard your heart, and only allow roots of love, faithfulness, and peace to prosper in it. Pray that you will know the difference between temporary feelings, and urges from the Holy Spirit.

And, my friends, pray it daily.

It may be hard at first, and your flesh will fight you, but eventually those deceiving feelings will wither away without nourishment. Set your heart on what God wants for you, and watch Him provide exactly what you need for a fulfilling life.

"Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace." - Romans 8:5-6


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